How to write realistic dialogue
If there's one thing guaranteed to break the spell of a great story, it's unrealistic dialogue. Readers will notice the minute a character utters something that feels contrived, out of character or just plain false. So, how do you create dialogue that rings true? Here's how to write dialogue that reflects how people talk, while serving your narrative and character development.
Keep it natural, but not too natural
In real life, conversations are often full of filler words, repetitions, incomplete sentences and other irregularities. While it's important to capture a sense of authenticity, reproducing real conversation verbatim can result in dialogue that feels cluttered and difficult to read. Striking the balance between realism and readability is key.
For example, instead of writing, "'Well, um, I guess, you know, I kinda like, um, playing guitar or something,' he mumbled," try "'Well, I guess I kind of like playing guitar,' he mumbled." It retains the hesitation and uncertainty of the character without bogging the reader down in filler words.
Use dialogue to reveal character
People speak differently based on their age, education, background, personality, and mood. Use these differences to make your characters' dialogue unique and reveal more about them.
For instance, a shy, introverted character might speak in short, clipped sentences, while an outgoing, confident character might have a more elaborate and flamboyant way of speaking. A character with a PhD in linguistics will likely use different vocabulary and sentence structure than a teenager.
Show, don't tell
This golden rule of writing also applies to dialogue. Instead of having characters openly state what they're feeling, use their dialogue to show it.
For example, instead of writing, "'I'm really angry at you,' she said," try something like, "'You're unbelievable,' she said, her voice icy."
Avoid info dumping
In the real world, people rarely use conversation to explain things that both parties already know. While it's tempting to use dialogue to convey background information to the reader, this can lead to conversations that feel contrived and unrealistic.
For example, a line such as, "'As you know, Bob, our mother left us when we were just kids,'" feels unnatural. Instead, weave necessary backstory into your narrative outside of dialogue.
Listen to real conversations
There's no better way to learn how to write realistic dialogue than to listen to people talk. Pay attention to conversations around you – in cafes, public transport, or your home. Notice what people say and how they say it, including tone, pacing, and body language.
Writing realistic dialogue is a delicate balancing act between authenticity, narrative pace, and character development. However, with practice, you can master the art of creating dialogue that is both true to life and engaging for readers. Remember, the aim is not to mirror real-life conversation exactly, but to make a believable impression of it. So, keep your ears open and your pen ready – you never know when you'll hear that perfect snippet of dialogue that will bring your characters to life.
